Overheard on
BYUTV Living Essentials, family therapist Dr. Marlene Williams makes this suggestion:
"Often when we try to understand another person's behavior and it may be confusing to us, it's easy for us to use the most negative explanation for why they do what they do. And
then we feel angry or upset with them because
we've explained their behavior in negative terms. But I've found from my experience in therapy working with couples and with families who are meeting challenges that
the most charitable explanation is closest to the truth. When we look at others in our relationships and in our family through charitable eyes, we usually can come up with a more accurate explanation to explain their behavior."